Scrolling throw my phone timeline, as I do every night before going to bed and what do I see;
“Evelyn files for Divorce, 41 days after saying ‘I do’….”
Of all the wives from the Basketball wives series, Evelyn’s my favourite, well after Draya (through she’s not a wife). I opened my mac and googled for info….there it was on the huffingtonpost, TMZ, People and even ESPN;
Chad Johnson’s wife of 6 weeks has filed for divorce…….Evelyn Lozada filed legal docs moments ago in Florida, claiming her marriage is “irretrievably broken.” The trigger for the divorce was the domestic violence incident over the weekend, in which Chad Johnson was arrested after allegedly head-butting her during an argument.Evelyn claimed she found a receipt for a box of condoms in his car………Evelyn and Chad JUST got married on July 4th in St. Maarten…….”
Evelyn released a statement saying;
“….I am deeply disappointed that Chad has failed to take responsibility for his actions and made false accusations against me, it is my sincere hope that he seeks the help he needs to overcome his troubles. Domestic violence is not okay and hopefully my taking a stand will help encourage other women to break their silence as well. I’m grateful to my family, friends and fans for the outpouring of support during this difficult time…..”
Following the divorce filing, Chad also released his own statement on his official website saying;
“I am going to let the legal process run its course. I wish Evelyn nothing but the best, I have no negative words to say about her, the only thing I can say is I love her very much,” said Johnson,
A day after the arrest, Chad Ochocinco was dumped by his team the Miami Dolphins. In his statement he also added;
“I will continue to be positive and stay training hard for another opportunity in the NFL. I appreciate all my fans and supporters and if I have disappointed you in any way, you have my sincerest apologies. Once again I will continue to stay positive and appreciate all the support during this tough period in my life.”
From ESPN‘s website;
“….Evelyn Lozada is ending her 41-day-old marriage to Chad Johnson after the football star was arrested for allegedly head-butting her over the weekend…..A rep for the VH1 reality star confirmed reports that Lozada filed for divorce Tuesday……The marriage imploded Saturday after an argument between the two ended with Lozada being treated at a hospital for lacerations to her head……In a 911 call released by authorities, a neighbour told police that there was an incident involving a “high-profile person” and is heard telling Lozada to wipe the blood from her head. Lozada is heard saying that Johnson head-butted her, and the caller says Lozada will probably need stitches……However, Johnson told police she head-butted him………”
They started dating early 2010.
Though once or twice there were reports of verbal disagreements between the two, he had to go and hit her during the honeymoon phrase. It got me thinking, how is it possible for some people stay together in a relationship for a long time but the second they get married, its hell. Yes, they say marriage is an all new kind of reality. It occurred to me, it nothing new, sometimes people get married for all the wrong reasons. I have heard a couple of them, one of the most popular is;
Some get married because its time. Take for example, a girl in her late 20’s. There is a high possibility that she would fall for the next prince charming in a heart beat and marry him before getting to know him.
This reminds me of one of the episodes on my fav. series of the moment, Single Ladies. Raquel calls off her engagement after she sees her fiancée cheating. Her fiancé has the typical 1st phrase characteristics of a dream husband, a very good job, looks to die for, graduate of an ivy league university, friends with the right people and blah blah….but he was cheating on her…and the worst part is her mother wanted her to over look it and go ahead with the marriage. Whats worse than getting married to the wrong person is entering a marriage when you enter a marriage with issues….that right there is a doomed.
When you get married, reality sets in but if you genuinely loved each other, should love overcome any issue. Don’t get me wrong am not saying Evelyn should have tried to work out their differences, I mean if you love some one why would you hit them and then deny it. Marriage is no joke its not a gamble of maybe, its important to get married to your friend not your social class. Not to continue blabbing, I guess all am trying to say is that people really need to be sure, really need to know who they are getting married too. The boyfriend and girlfriend phrase can seem like the best thing ever but if you find that you are not being real with each other, you have to wake up an hour early to brush your hair and look perfect, you might want to rethink getting married, well except if you are Bree Van De Camp, able to put aside your emotions.
Does the amount of time you spend together in a relationship with someone determine how long you would stay married? The truth, It’s hard to say whether a long engagement or a running leap will give them a better shot at growing old together. Khloe Kardashian got married to Lamar Odom after 9days and next month would make it 3years they have been together. A totally opposite story, Martin Lawrence and his wife Shamicka, the couple had been together for 15 years before getting married less than two years ago in Beverly Hills. They split earlier this year. Marriages risk failure when dating couples give that last step an unwise promotion.
Some people say long engagements leads to long marriages. Marriage is forever, it sounds scary but that what it should be. But this days divorce is just so easy and people get married with the thought that they can get divorced at the slightest mis-hap. I want to get married with the thought and hope that we would be together with forever and ever, that might sound like a little girl’s fairy tale but that is exactly what I want.
For short engagements they say its not enough time to build a good foundation as opposed to a long engagement. I am more in the school of thought that says “You can’t say the duration of the courtship doesn’t make a difference to how long the marriage would last.” The funniest and realest i’ve heard is, “You should give the dating relationship at least four seasons.” I kind of agree with that statement. People in their honest being change with the season, if you can survive 4 seasons then it just might work.
In the spirit of this post below are a some of Hollywoods Long engagements that ended or led to marriage and shortest unions.
For Long Engagements. we have 4 of my favourite;
– Matthew McConaughey & Camilla Alves. This is one couple I love to hate. There are just so perfect together. Matthew was once known as the sexiest bachelor in hollywood till Camilla changed that now they are the sexiest couple. There kids are indeed blessed. They were engaged for 4 years before they got married this year.
– Carmen Electra and Rob Patterson. They have been dating and have now been engaged for 5 years and counting
– Chris Noth & Tara Wilson. Chris Noth……hmmm all i can think about when I see him is Mr. Big from sex and the city (i really don’t care that he is in the Good Wife). He and Tara started dating 8 years ago and finally got married earlier this year.
– Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham- (The longest engagement in (hollywood) history!) The talkshow queen has been with her businesman partner for over 25 years, and have an upcoming engagement anniversary celebrating, 20 years! Their engagement period has surpassed the length of most marriages these days!
And two couples that shocked me after being together for what seemed like forever, The first was, Shakira and Antonio de la Rua. They were engaged for 10 years since 2001. They wore their engagement rings for a full decade before separating in 2011. And the second was, Hugh Grant and Elizabeth Hurley….
And for shortest celebrity unions;
The most recent famous, Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries – 72days…..So much for a fairy tale wedding, I think Kim was more caught up with the urge to get married than who she was getting married to.
Pamela Anderson: 60 days to Rick Salomon and 114 Days to Kid Rock
Drew Barrymore: 29 days to Jeremy Thomas and 163 days to Tom Green
The man with the pretty smile and Miss USA, Mario Lopez and Ali Landry – 14days
Another 14 day union belongs to Eddie Murphy and Tracey Edmonds, Baby face must have giggled a bit ’cause i know i would have.
9day: Dennis Rodman and Carmen Electra, I give her props for lasting 7days more than I thought.
55 Hours: Britney Spears and Jason Allen Alexander. I actually thought this was the shortest but I thought wrong